Fine at School, Falling Apart at Home: Why they hold it together all day and let go with you

They are not worse with you. They are more themselves.

They spent six hours running a version of themselves that fits the room. It is a good version. It is also work.

A short book about the twenty minutes after the school gate. Why the report says settled and happy. And what to do between four and six.

It will not give you a calm afternoon. It makes the falling apart shorter, and stops it taking the evening with it.

“You are the place it is safe to stop.”

Who it’s for

For the parent holding a glowing school report and an unrecognisable child at four o’clock. Ages 2 to 8, and for the adult more than the child.

The book

Paperback · 64pp · 127 x 203 mm · ISBN 978-1-911837-38-1
Published by The Regulated Human Co. Printed to order in the UK.

This book supports everyday emotional awareness. It is not a screening tool and it is not a substitute for professional guidance.

Everyday Signals is our range for the grown-up. Short books about the moments that repeat — the hallway, the plate, the landing at bedtime — written for the person managing them rather than the child having them. Little Signals is the companion range, written for children themselves. No quick fixes. No hype. Regulation before optimisation.