THE SITUATION INDEX
what's happening?
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MORNINGS AND GETTING OUT
- the shoe won't go on
- the morning has already gone wrong
- won't get in the car seat
- teeth, hair, the bath
BIG FEELINGS
- on the floor, gone
- flat, and nothing is interesting
- they've gone quiet and won't answer
- a worry they're carrying round
- they said something that stung
- they've said it wasn't them
- won't say sorry
- they hurt another child
- the plan changed and they can't
BEDTIME AND THE NIGHT
OUT AND ABOUT
SCHOOL AND NURSERY
- the goodbye at the door
- the tummy ache before school
- fine all day, then falls apart at home
- nobody to play with
- the homework fight
- the word they've just learned
AT HOME, DAY TO DAY
- won't come off the screen
- won't eat what's on the plate
- they're hurting each other
- everything is a whine today
- accidents, after they were dry
- since the baby came
- won't hand it over
FOR YOU
- I'm the one who lost it
- I'm overwhelmed
- I can't start the thing
- I've got nothing left
- I can't be touched right now
- I'm home but I'm not home yet
- it's over but it's still in me
- wide awake and thinking
- awake and already behind
- everyone else seems to manage
- I'm the one who does everything
- I'm angrier than this deserves
- I've gone flat
- bracing for something that hasn't happened
- something has ended
- there's no gap anywhere in the day
- I'm meant to be the calm one
This is a small tool for ordinary hard moments. It is not therapy, not medical advice, and not a crisis service. If someone is in danger, please contact your local emergency service.